2. Refrain from punishing your child.
What kind of lesson do we teach our young people when, as a consequence for getting bad grades, we "ground" them or compel them to do "extra credit" work? Is this the way the world really works? In the real world, people fail. That's something that maturing children must learn to cope with.
Getting grounded isn't a lesson. Failing a course is. Going to bed without dinner isn't a lesson. Expressing one's self at the dinner table by screaming "the old cunt served us broccoli again, that fucking bitch" is.
These are valuable life lessons. We need the opportunity to express ourselves as the miserable creatures we are. If we are refused this opportunity, we simply repress, inhibit, and stunt our inner growth as emotional beings. We become literal walking time bombs.
If you, as a parent or teacher, reprimand a child for an honest expression of depravity, you're stifling any real growth in that child. The end result of such stifling is obvious: a joint, two hookers, and a chainsaw.
Go to:
- Eliminate violent language from your vocabulary.
- Refrain from punishing your child.
- Never use violence in retaliation to violence.
