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Women Who Use the "C" Word
(and the Men Who Love Them)

by Jason Roth

It's this "security blanket" aspect of a "serious" relationship that can result in the classic cliche of the sexless marriage. The two people are together for any reason other than because they are attracted to one another. One reason two people might want to "take it to the next level" in the first place is that they feel they've invested too much of their time to call it quits. At the exact moment when they really should be cutting their losses and ending it, they do the complete opposite: they commit to a lifetime of misery. (Or if not misery, at least romantic mediocrity.)

The time to commit to a long-term relationship is when both mutual attraction exists and sufficient knowledge of the "must-have" aspects of each other's character are clearly known. If sexual attraction has waned for either person, it's likely due to the knowledge that the their mate doesn't fit the bill. Rather than blanking-out the fact that the other person doesn't meet one's highest standards for a long-term relationship, one should be honest and say so. Otherwise, the words "I do" just become an escape hatch from the more honest, and more courageous, task of ending the relationship.

The guy who makes the ultimate commitment because he doesn't have the balls to face the truth about a failed relationship doesn't deserve any praise for being "willing to commit". He should be "afraid to commit" and run for his life.

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