As annoying as the characters are who "get involved" and try to help their friends in the first place (because they usually have equally fucked-up problems), the second character type is even worse. They have no qualms about uttering a logician's nightmare: that morally judging a person who makes a moral judgment is the one moral judgment which is morally permitted.
Why are television actors - not to mention human beings - so damn touchy about judgment? It doesn't take Freud to come up with the answer, assuming Freud ever uttered a sentence fit for anything other than a pornographic comic book.
The answer is fear. If we all lived in Oz, or the Garden of Eden, or some goddamned field of lilies where people sat under trees and read Marx all day, then there would be no need to judge. No one would be capable of doing anything wrong, and there would be no one to point it out if we did.
Thank God in Hell we don't live in that kind of world. Why? Because we wouldn't be human beings for Christ's sake! If we were capable of doing no wrong, we wouldn't have control over our behavior. We'd have no free will. If you weren't capable of being judged, it would be because you're not capable of choosing one action as opposed to another. You couldn't do anything wrong, but you couldn't do anything "right" either. You'd be a robot or an animal that just did what you had to do.
I'm sorry to say, but you do have free will, whether you like it or not. Disagree? How can you be sure? You're only programmed to disbelieve free will, remember?
You can fuck up. You can do stupid things. That's part of your nature. You can also make some good choices once in a while. (Regardless of whether some welfare-loving liberal would have you believe otherwise.)
People are afraid of taking the responsibility for their free will. But the fear isn't the fundamental problem. The problem is having the balls to take action despite the fear.
I've felt the fear. When I was a practicing Catholic, I felt the fear of personal responsibility when I was questioning the existence of God. Without a God in Heaven pulling the strings of the universe, the responsibility for my life is on my shoulders. But you know what? Fear doesn't tell me what's the best choice to make. Fear doesn't tell me right from wrong. Only my mind can tell me that.
You have to feel the fear, and move on.
